The thought came to me, while watching the second season of Ozark, that when our ego gets involved we can no longer see the bigger picture of our situation. We can no longer be happy for others success instead we turn it around to our distress. That's our own self sabotage, that we are not able to see our own possibilities by taking others help as a stepping stone in the right direction. Instead we look at situations and others as blocks or competition to what we want or where we want to go.Read More
I've noticed lately a lot of miscommunication and defensive responses to what is being said as well as not going direct to the source by picking up the phone. Most people will complain to others or react back through email and/or texting, given the delayed and often misread understanding and tone of what is being communicated.Read More
What are the key mixtures for a successful relationship? Let me start with any relationship you are in can be successful for what you need to learn from them, unfortunately not all relationships are meant for the long haul. Luckily, we do not need to stay in a marriage or relationship that is unfulfilling, controlling, or abusive. We do have choices every day in how we attract, participate in, and maintain a relationship for better or for worse.Read More
I thought I would write a blog on better communication, since I have noticed that most people struggle to be heard or really understood and can walk away from a conversation feeling frustrated and alone. The unfortunate part is as children we were not taught how to have a "deep" conversation and what that really looks like and feels like. Some of us were told to be quiet and only speak when spoken to. Others were not giving a filter to conversations. And most of us were told to share our stories as someone is sharing theres, what looks like a tennis match of story telling where no one is really listen, just wanting for their turn to share.Read More
With Mercury retrograde this month I have been astounded at how many people lack the social skill of communication. With life today being the hustle and bustle of "busyness" running here and running there, I've noticed that people look down more than they look up to who or what is right in front of them.
Last week, I was early to my yoga class. I entered the quiet studio, set down my mat, and was getting ready to lie down in peacefulness before class. Then a woman on her cell phone, which was on speaker, burst into the studio to lay down her mat while full blown into her conversation thinking nothing of the people who were decompressing quietly from their day. There seems to be a lack of awareness or social etiquette in todays world. We have lost how to communicate to those around us and wonder why we feel so disconnected and lonely. What's funny is, this phenomenon has become the "norm". Have we forgotten the importance of human interaction? Missing opportunities to connect to people that are right there in front of us? Has communication become the forgotten art form?
If anything this Mercury Retrograde which, signifies issues of communication and delays, has taught me, is to slow down and look up and notice my life right in front of me. As for communication my message to you is life is too short and if you don't take time to nurture those relationships around you, the time may pass you by. With Prince's death coming as such a surprise, I realize we may never get that chance to say how we feel or tell someone we love them. Seize the moment now and call someone you love and tell them how much they mean to you. Practice putting down your phone to say hi to the people walking by and listen when someone is reaching out to connect with you. You never know what you may receive as a gift in that moment if you're paying attention.