The thought came to me, while watching the second season of Ozark, that when our ego gets involved we can no longer see the bigger picture of our situation. We can no longer be happy for others success instead we turn it around to our distress. That's our own self sabotage, that we are not able to see our own possibilities by taking others help as a stepping stone in the right direction. Instead we look at situations and others as blocks or competition to what we want or where we want to go.
When we can truly be happy for others is the first step to being happy for ourselves. Anything is possible when you believe it's possible. It begins with our thinking. Are our thoughts towards what we want to attract or away from what we want to attract? Aligning our thoughts and then our actions to where we want to go is the work. As we watch our thoughts, we can notice a lot about ourselves. For example, when someone shares something good that's going on for them do we feel happy for them or mad that it is not happening for us. If someone shares they met someone and we've been looking to meet someone does it trigger why not me? What's wrong with me I haven't met someone but they have?
Our energy and thoughts drive what we attract whether good, bad, what we want or what we don't want. If you go out in hopes of meeting someone and then come away disappointed you didn't. And say to yourself, "I never meet anyone when I go out. I'm not attracted to anyone that was there. I never am. I'm never going to meet someone." If those are your thoughts it will become harder to attract someone in, when all you are putting out is the opposite. And then those thoughts and energy from the past, become the future thoughts when you go out. "Why am I even going out, I never meet anyone." becomes your mantra of NOT attracting what you want but attracting what you don't want. Also that energy is what is projected out to others when you are out socially.
The solution is change your thoughts, change your outcome. Don't let your ego get the best of you and allow for the possibilities of attraction can and will come to you as well. This is not a competition. There are enough people out there for everyone. It's about rising your vibration as Ester Hicks who channels Abraham would say. Be aware of where your thoughts go. As for meeting someone, go out in the aims of meeting interesting people and having a good time, then focusing on meeting the one. You never know who knows your next relationship. If you can have fun meeting people you feel better and when you feel better, then your energy vibration is more attractive to others then when you are only focused on did you meet someone or not. That's not the point, the point is to have fun in your life no matter what you are doing. This is your life, enjoy being single until your not.
This is not just for relationships, but things you want. If you want another job then take the steps to getting another job, by thinking it is possible. You can have the job of your dreams. You can attract a job that pays you more money and values your contributions. It starts with your thoughts. If you are thinking about how awful your job is and how you don't want this or that in your next job. That thinking will not create what you want but attract more of what you don't want in. Instead think about what types of people you would love to work with. What your next working environment feels like and looks like. Turn the negatives to positives.
My challenge to you is tomorrow I want you to notice your thoughts and where they go. Are they more positive or negative? When you start going down the rabbit hole of negative thoughts catch yourself and turn them around. Say to yourself STOP. How can I think about that in a more positive light? Or what is the opportunity I am getting in this situation? What do I like about this person? How can I benefit from this situation? What do I have to learn in this scenario? What is this trying to teach me? Step out of yourself and see the bigger picture. No one is out to get you, so give others the benefit of the doubt and remember they are doing the best they can with what they know. Good luck and have fun! See what you learn about yourself through the process.